Sexual Health for Clients

Source: Dear Client Manual – STELLA 


  • Get familiar with condoms, the best way is to use a condom a few times during masturbation
  • Check the expiry date on the package of the condom. If the expiry date has passed, throw it out!
  • Check to see if there is air in the condom package. If there is no air, there is a good chance that the condom is damaged. Throw it out and take another one.
  • Open the package with care, from the the middle. Do not use your teeth or scissors to open it.
  • Take the condom by the tip (closed tip). Ensure that it is on the right side: the edge to unroll needs to be on the outside.
  • You can put one or two drops of lubricant on the inside of the condom, that will make it more comfortable and increase your sensation.
  • Pinch the closed tip of the condom to let out any air before unrolling the condom on the penis. This step is very important and often neglected. If you don’t do this it can often cause a break in the condom. If there is air that stays in the tip of the condom, the condom can burst.
  • If you are not circumcised, pull back the skin that covers the head of the penis until the penis head is well exposed. Put the condom on the head of the penis, while still pinching the tip of the condom, and slowly unroll the condom to the base of the penis.
  • Put the condom on the head of the penis, while still pinching the tip of the condom, and slowly unroll the condom to the base of the penis.
  • If you think you have done it wrong, take the condom off and start with a fresh and new one.
  • Use water-based lubricant on the outside of the condom for vaginal and anal penetration. This will cause the friction and reduce the risk of the condom breaking. And it feels really good!
  • After having ejaculated, pull out immediately (slowly). Take the condom from the base of the penis (the round side) while pulling out to ensure that it doesn’t fall off in your partner’s vagina or anus. And pay attention so that nothing spills out while you are taking it off!
  • Use a condom by choice: using a condom will allow you to explore your sexuality without worry and totally let yourself go.
  • Do not keep condoms in your pockets, your wallet or other places where there is risk of movement or heat exposure that may result in damage
  • Pay attention to rings, nails, and body piercings while you handle a condom!
  • Never use a defective condom!
  • Never use a condom twice!
  • Do not use one condom on the top of the other. This can cause friction and increase the risk of breakage.
  • Non-lubricated condoms and flavoured fruit or mint condoms are ideal for oral sex.
  • If you use non-lubricated condoms for penetration, put a water-based lubricant on the outside.
  • You can find water-based lubricants very easily at your favourite sex shop! Get informed!
  • It is important that you use a water-based lubricant.
  • Do not use fruit or mint-flavoured condoms for vaginal or anal sex; the flavouring they contain may cause irritation in your partner.
  • Oil-based lubricants can seriously damage condoms and should not be used. Also, YOU MUST NOT use the following oil-based products as lubricants: Vaseline, topical creams, kitchen oil, massage oils, and hand creams.
  • We always use condoms when we play with sex toys (dildos, vibrators, etc.) and we invite you to do the same!
  • If you use different toys, you must use a different condom on each one.
  • If you change orifices (mouth, vagina, anus) with the toy, also change the condom.
  • If you are thinking of giving a sex toy to one of us as a gift, ask us in advance what we would like to receive. Preferences in sex toys vary.
  • If you are using sex toys on a sex worker, according to an agreement that you have made with one of us in advance, respect her choice of toys, her rhythm and her limits.
  • If you want to use toys for anal sex, ensure that you choose your toys well. Some toys require time to adjust. If you don’t have previous experience with a toy, take the time to experiment by yourself, if possible. Start by choosing the smallest toy. And put a condom on your toys as well!
  • Toys need to be cleaned before and after each use. Go to your favourite sex shop to ask for information on the best way to clean your toys. Each toy is not made of the same material and there are different ways to take care of different toys. Avoid strong detergents. You can clean most sex toys with mild soap and a wet cloth. Sex toys made of glass can be rinsed with rubbing alcohol. Silicone toys can be cleaned in the dishwasher, placed on the top rack.
  • Be careful: cleaning your toys is really important but does not guarantee that they are disinfected. It is always as important to use a condom on your toys.
  • For anal penetration with fingers (fingering) or with a hand (fisting), we use latex gloves. While using gloves, it is important that nails are trimmed so that the gloves don’t tear. Sex workers also appreciate using latex gloves for vaginal penetration with fingers.
  • If you are allergic to latex there are hypo-allergenic condoms made from polyurethane that offer the same protection against STIs as latex condoms. They are produced by Durex and are called Avanti. You can find them at most pharmacies. The same applies for gloves: made with Nitrile, they will not cause an allergic reaction. Ensure that the gloves you use do not have too much powder: this can cause friction and irritation.
  • Always use a lot of water-based lubricant on condoms and gloves !

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